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Get On The Bus…

Get On The Bus

Ummmm… Better catch a cab, get on the bus…!!!

Ok, so at my tender age of 20 & some change, you know I’ve had my experiences (some I’d rather forget) with the opposite sex. I was just sitting down the other day and thinking about my previous’ relationships and the nonsense us females have to deal with… Fast forward because I don’t have time to go through all the issues but I realised that a lot of the time people, no actually FEMALES get taken advantage of in relationships and this because they don’t understand their SELF-WORTH! It’s extremely important to KNOW YOUR PLACE in any situation especially those of relationships because if not you can easily be taken ADVANTAGE of and misused, and trust me you will not know what hit you once your situation had gone sour. Not understanding your place sets you up for HURT, you begin to feel like you FAILED, like you’ve just become someones past time, of no PURPOSE and disappointed! During my younger days, when I first started dating I didn’t have a clue as to what I wanted out of my relationships, I didn’t know what I was BRINGING to my relationships, I didn’t know what kind of person I wanted to date or why I even wanted to date them… These were all messed up relationships, they brought NO GROWTH, nothing but stress the feeling if disappointment and REJECTION… It’s a hard place to be at when you’re new, inexperienced and IMMATURE. The biggest lesson I’ve learnt in growing up is how important it is to know what you want and STICK TO YOUR GUNS, it keeps you STRONG minded, it gives you AMMUNITION when you have to defend yourself, it allows you not fall in the face of ADVERSITY and most importantly, it gives you MORALS (one thing most people lack today), benchmarking how much BULLSHIT you are willing to take!!!

So if your not sure and confused about what you want, don’t venture into the path of the unknown… Understand your needs and aim to meet them… If you end up in a place where you can’t be yourself or you feel like your not gaining what you desire, tell the person to get on the bus cos ain’t nobody got time for that… Lol…



It’s Ridiculous…!!!!


It’s almost half way through the year 2013 and I haven’t blogged a DAMN word!!! Sorry mate…

Anywhoo, I’m blogging today… Hope all is well…

Just felt to share a little message in regards to something I’ve been noticing this last couple of months. I’ve joined INSTAGRAM, follow me ‘@Margaretta_Allotey‘.. and you know how it goes, you start following people and get a glimpse of their lives, and its all good because its nice to SEE THE WORLD through other people’s eyes, but I’ve been coming across a few RANDOM pages, mainly from the ladies, and the things people are putting out these days is highly QUESTIONABLE… From half naked pictures to relationship status’s, to what you bought from ZARA yesterday, like I said its all good, its a free country but these ladies are the first to complain or make statements like ‘Haters Gonna Hate‘ or ‘Why Is Everyone All Up In My Business’… Erm, why do you think so.. People that expose themselves like that have no right to be talking slack out others talking about them if they are going to come on social network sites and expose themselves on some RIDICULOUS levels… I’ve said this once and I’m going to say it again, I do not have a problem with SOCIAL MEDIA, its all good to me but I know there’s some people out there who are going to say I’m ‘hating’, but lets keep it real, people make ASSUMPTIONS on each other based on what they see, so if your going to be exposing yourself inappropriately on all levels and them people decide to talk negatively about you, what would you expect, what they are saying is based on what you’ve shown them…

Say No More…

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“ram’s horns”
Symbol of humility together with strength

The ram will fight fiercely against an adversary, but it also submits humbly to slaughter, emphasizing that even the strong need to be humble

Twelve Ways To Be Humble – Part 2

Purposely Associate With People Of Lower State Than You (Luke 7:36-39)
Jesus was derided by the Pharisees for socialising with the poor and those of lowly state. Our culture is very status conscious and people naturally want to socialise upward. Resist the temptation of being partial to those with status or wealth.

Choose To Serve Others (Philippians 1:1-2, Corinthians 4:5, Matthew 23:11) 
When we serve others, we are serving God’s purposes in their lives. Doing so reduces our focus on ourselves and builds the Kingdom of God instead of the Kingdom of self. When serving another costs us nothing, we should question whether or not it is really servanthood.

Be Quick To Forgive (Matthew 18:21-35)
Forgiveness is possibly one of the greatest acts of humility we can do. To forgive is to acknowledge a wrong that has been done to us and also to further release our right of repayment for the wrong. Forgiveness is denial of self. Forgiveness is not insisting on our way and our justice.

Cultivate A Grateful Heart (1 Thessalonians 5:18)
The  more we develop an attitude of gratitude for the gift of salvation and the life He has given us, the more true our perspective of self. A grateful heart is a humble heart.

Purpose To Speak Well Of Others (Ephesians 4:31-32)
Saying negative things about others puts them ‘one down’ and us ‘one up’… a form of pride. Speaking well of others edifies them and builds them up instead of us. Make sure, however, that what you say is not intended as flattery.

Treat Pride As A Condition That Always Necessities Embracing The Cross (Luke 9:23)
It is our nature to be proud and it is God’s nature in us that brings humility. Committing to a lifestyle of daily dying to self and living through Him is the foundation for true humility.

I hope these ways have enlightened you. Sometimes we have to come besides ourselves to really understand and develop ourselves, someone once shared this WISDOM with me, and I am happy you be sharing it with you.

Stay Blessed


“ram’s horns”
Symbol of humility together with strength

The ram will fight fiercely against an adversary, but it also submits humbly to slaughter, emphasizing that even the strong need to be humble

A conversation with a friend about HUMILITY to some extent saved my life. It was back in final year uni and to be honest I cant remember how the topic came about, all I know is that I said something which he was not too pleased with and he asked me, ‘do you know what humility is?‘, and silly me says ‘humidity…‘ LMAO…  Anyway, he explained the concept to me, and gave me this…

Twelve Ways To Be Humble – Part 1

Routinely Confess Your Sins To God (Luke 18:9-14)
All of us sin and fall short of the glory of God. However, too few of us have a routine practice of rigorous self-honesty examination. Weekly, even daily, review of your heart and behaviour, coupled with confession with God, is an essential practice of humility.

Acknowledge Your Sin To Others (James 3:2, James 5:16)
Humility before God is not complete unless there is also humility before men. A true test of our willingness to humble ourselves is being willing to share with others the weaknesses we share with God. Wisdom, however, dictates that we do so with others we trust.

Take Wrong Patiently (1 Peter 3:8-17)
This can be difficult. When something is unjust you would want to react and rectify it. However patiently responding to the unjust accusations and actions of others demonstrates our strength of godly character and provides opportunity to put on humility.

Actively Submit To Authority… The Good And The Bad (1 Peter 2:18)
Our culture does not value submission; rather it promotes individualism. How purposely and actively do you work on submission to those whom God has placed as authorities in your life? Doing so is a good way to humble yourself. 

Receive Correction And Feedback From Others Graciously (Proverbs 10:17, 12:1)
A pastor was noted for graciously recieving any negative feedback or correction offered. He would simply say ‘thank you for caring enough to share that with me, I will pray about it and get back to you.’ Look for the kernel truth in what people offer you, even if it comes from a dubious source. Always pray, ‘Lord, what are you trying to show me through this?’

Accept A Lowly Place (Proverbs 25:6, 7)
If you find yourself wanting to sit at the head table, wanting others to recognise your contribution or become offended when others are honoured or chosen, then pride is present. Purpose to support others being recognised, rather than you. Accept and look for the lowly place; it is a place of humility.

This is the first part, check in tomorrow for the other six ways to humble yourself

Be Inspired
Be Humble…