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The One…

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You know very well, who you are, you’re the only one, you have my heart… And I don’t need no one baby, without you I’m incomplete, our love is just like the bar, put it all in me…
 
It’s so amazing when two people decide to commit themselves to eachother… Love & Relationship is such a GOD-TRAIT… Over the last couple of months I’ve had so many marriage invitations, people are welcoming babies to their families and I’m really enjoying all this LOVE. It’s amazing how you feel when someone decides to take care if you, they have your best interests at heart, they want you well, healthy, you become their PRIORITY, it’s a beautiful feeling and we all DESERVE it!!! That’s what we here for, why it’s such a welcomed feeling and one we all, whether we acknowledge it or not, CRAVE for… There’s nothing wrong with being loved, it’s built in us. God loved us first, He showed us how to love and it’s innate that we keep on loving!!! I believe everyone will feel complete, feel like they have a purpose once they discover what it is to give and receive love.
 
 
But I believe that now, the reason relationships are going wrong, and why there’s so much anxiety surrounding love is because people are scared of being in that VULNERABLE state. Check this situation out, you’re a female and you’ve been approached by someone you see round the way in a regular basis, this guy is now telling you how he’s been watching you for a while, really likes what your about and wants to get to know you… Most ladies may find this a bit creepy, but this guy is really being genuine and wants to do just that – get to know you… This day in age it’s quite rare for a guy to approach a girl in this manner, in my personal experience guys feel they are doing ladies a favor by being with them, they MISTREAT ladies and take total advantage by playing into their EMOTIONS, because of this some ladies become closed and put up a guard which makes it harder for the next guy to really get to know them, which is a shame because that next guy could possibly hold all the traits she is looking for. Because of the ex, the lady is now in a fear state seeing all GUYS as the same and therefore not allowing herself to be vulnerable. Ladies I’m sure we’re all familiar with the saying ‘you have to kiss a few frogs before you find your prince..’ – We need to understand that every experience and relationship we go through is an opportunity to learn about ourselves and ESTABLISH what we will and will not tolerate. They are opportunities to feather out what you really want in a partner and how we want them to make us feel, there’s no point going into a situation blindsided and without experience or purpose, you’ll set yourself up for failure and DISAPPOINTMENT. I have to admit, I’ve been victim of this so many times, but now I know exactly what I want and because I’ve made myself immune to the BS I can recognise the good stuff when I see it.
 
Also this fear of love and fear if vulnerability can come from never experiencing LOVE. You know they say that your childhood stays with you forever, whatever you learn, see and experience as a child molds you and haunts you in your adult life. Sometimes our feelings and a PERCEPTION about certain things derives from what we’ve been exposed to as children and this can become hard to shake because they become EMBEDDED in us. If these are negative associations, lets allow our adult experiences and opportunities to teach us that we may be seeing it all WRONG. This can CHANGE, ideas can CHANGE and how we feel towards live and anything else for that matter can CHANGE.
 
So today, I want to ENCOURAGE ladies and GENTLEMEN to stay open-minded in all relationships, once you know what you’re looking for it will not be hard for you to FIND it. Understand that every EXPERIENCE you go through is a LEARNING CURVE and really take from it an understanding of SELF! Everyone deserves LOVE, whether you are giving it or receiving it, give someone the opportunity to get to know you for who you are, the things you think LEAST about yourself will be the things that make you AMAZING to somebody else.
 
Margaretta
 
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Monday Morning Workout…

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This weeks workout song goes with no saying, it speaks for itself…

I had never heard this song until recently when some friends and myself were hanging out. The girl who made me listen to this song had the personality to suit. We have a lot of in depth conversations and from getting to know her I realized how strong willed she was, doesn’t accept bullshit and understands that she’s “worth” it! Lol… Her personality fits this song to a T because its motivating us to keep reaching and achieving and no being held back…

So the MESSAGE I want to relay to you all is to never stop what your doing for self on other peoples ACCORD, keep moving and pursuing your dreams, goals and ASPIRATIONS because no one can stop you! Everything you want an need out of this life is on your BACK and no body has the right to take what’s yours away from you. Keep it moving. We live in a society where we’re fed with illustrations of what we should be, we have celebrity lifestyles thrown in our faces on a daily basis and to some EXTENT these can be inspirational for us but sometimes we have to inspire ourselves and understand that WHATEVER our minds can conceive, as beings, we can achieve! I find myself having to reiterate this message on a daily basis to all different kinds of people and that just goes to show that we as individuals STRUGGLE with so many common issues, but what we fail to realize as individuals is that individually we have why it takes to keep ourselves moving and achieving!

 

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I Know Your Secret…

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So… A while back some mates of mine told me about a book which called THE SECRET… I understood it to be very popular and from what I had seen online there was also a film based on it. So I picked up the book and read I within a few days. The book FOCUS’ on our attitude towards the world and how we perceive ourselves, it’s main purpose is to teach us to understand that our world and what we go through in life is DETERMINED my our MINDS and our THOUGHTS… ‘You have to speak you life into existence’… The author stated that whatever we want to BE, whatever we want to ACHIEVE, our EXPERIENCES or want to PRODUCE, we have to physically say it, believe and live our life as if you already have it. While hoping for OURSELVES you should spread love in all ways possible, no matter how big or how small the gesture, in all you do do with love, unselfishness and with a GRATEFUL heart. I think that’s deep!

Deep because I’m a CHRISTIAN, I believe in God, I believe GOD IS LOVE. Reading the book I noticed so many similarities between The Secret and the principles I read about in my Bible. Change your thoughts and change your world – RENEW YOUR MIND. The Bible tells us that we are made in God’s image and that we must have faith in all we do, this starts with the way we think about ourselves. As individuals we need to understand that we are CAPABLE of it all, whatever you can dream, you can achieve… Your dream along with a little bit of faith and belief is incomprehensible…

The Secret also spoke about vocalising and COMMUNICATING to the universe the things you want out of life. I believe that the universe represents God, but this can vary depending on your personal beliefs. As a Christian I communicate to God through PRAYER, I let Him know my thoughts and feelings, my dreams and ASPIRATIONS, this conversation is done through out the day and as a say the words I believe that they will come to pass…

God is Love! That’s MAJOR! The Secret spoke about spreading love in all ways possible, this starts with your attitude, loving yourself REFLECTS on how you treat others. The Bible teaches us to love our neighbours and in all things we do we should go with love. The same principle was reflected in The Secret, it’s amazing how science has proven what God has been teaching us all this TIME. And the surprising thing is, is that both elements agree on the most basic principles, methods which are FREE to us all and need no teaching; WE just simply need to understand what you want out if this life, ASK for it and BELIEVE we will RECIEVE it.

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Get On The Bus…


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Ummmm… Better catch a cab, get on the bus…!!!

Ok, so at my tender age of 20 & some change, you know I’ve had my experiences (some I’d rather forget) with the opposite sex. I was just sitting down the other day and thinking about my previous’ relationships and the nonsense us females have to deal with… Fast forward because I don’t have time to go through all the issues but I realised that a lot of the time people, no actually FEMALES get taken advantage of in relationships and this because they don’t understand their SELF-WORTH! It’s extremely important to KNOW YOUR PLACE in any situation especially those of relationships because if not you can easily be taken ADVANTAGE of and misused, and trust me you will not know what hit you once your situation had gone sour. Not understanding your place sets you up for HURT, you begin to feel like you FAILED, like you’ve just become someones past time, of no PURPOSE and disappointed! During my younger days, when I first started dating I didn’t have a clue as to what I wanted out of my relationships, I didn’t know what I was BRINGING to my relationships, I didn’t know what kind of person I wanted to date or why I even wanted to date them… These were all messed up relationships, they brought NO GROWTH, nothing but stress the feeling if disappointment and REJECTION… It’s a hard place to be at when you’re new, inexperienced and IMMATURE. The biggest lesson I’ve learnt in growing up is how important it is to know what you want and STICK TO YOUR GUNS, it keeps you STRONG minded, it gives you AMMUNITION when you have to defend yourself, it allows you not fall in the face of ADVERSITY and most importantly, it gives you MORALS (one thing most people lack today), benchmarking how much BULLSHIT you are willing to take!!!

So if your not sure and confused about what you want, don’t venture into the path of the unknown… Understand your needs and aim to meet them… If you end up in a place where you can’t be yourself or you feel like your not gaining what you desire, tell the person to get on the bus cos ain’t nobody got time for that… Lol…

Blessings
Margaretta

It’s Ridiculous…!!!!

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It’s almost half way through the year 2013 and I haven’t blogged a DAMN word!!! Sorry mate…

Anywhoo, I’m blogging today… Hope all is well…

Just felt to share a little message in regards to something I’ve been noticing this last couple of months. I’ve joined INSTAGRAM, follow me ‘@Margaretta_Allotey‘.. and you know how it goes, you start following people and get a glimpse of their lives, and its all good because its nice to SEE THE WORLD through other people’s eyes, but I’ve been coming across a few RANDOM pages, mainly from the ladies, and the things people are putting out these days is highly QUESTIONABLE… From half naked pictures to relationship status’s, to what you bought from ZARA yesterday, like I said its all good, its a free country but these ladies are the first to complain or make statements like ‘Haters Gonna Hate‘ or ‘Why Is Everyone All Up In My Business’… Erm, why do you think so.. People that expose themselves like that have no right to be talking slack out others talking about them if they are going to come on social network sites and expose themselves on some RIDICULOUS levels… I’ve said this once and I’m going to say it again, I do not have a problem with SOCIAL MEDIA, its all good to me but I know there’s some people out there who are going to say I’m ‘hating’, but lets keep it real, people make ASSUMPTIONS on each other based on what they see, so if your going to be exposing yourself inappropriately on all levels and them people decide to talk negatively about you, what would you expect, what they are saying is based on what you’ve shown them…

Say No More…

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